Misfortunes are blessings in an ugly wrap...

At a young age I was subjected to a lot of misfortunes; some of them in the form of pain—physical as well as emotional. Unfortunate as it may seem, there’s actually a big lessons I have learned from it, and that is the fact that no matter who I think I am, I’m just a vulnerable human being—subject to the whims of fate, under the mercy of the elements, and a plaything of my emotions; and so I learned to be...

When pain outshines love...

A close friend of mine has once again consulted me about a dream he had recently. Again, it was about the person he loves and how she had changed along with the passing of their relationship. He narrates… I find myself in a fight with her. No matter how much I try to give light, she would go deaf; instead she would snag me with her ballistic rhetoric of all my errors. Being mild as I know myself in such a defeating...

Parenting: What have I been to my children...

  As the chapter of my life unfolds with my becoming a parent, I find myself back in my early childhood days when I try to make sense of every action that my parents do. When either of my sons drew their validating look during those times I issue an uncompromising gesture over their actions, I remember myself the same when I was their age. Time once halted as I watch them helplessly confined in the loving safety of...

The true nature of love...

  A close friend of mine came to me with a question on his mind. It’s about a dream he had about a girl he once loved. He came to me with the following story. Last night I had a very vivid dream; it was a dream about a lady whom I was once in love. Upon seeing her beautiful face for the first time after an apparent long absence, I was captivated by her enchanting smile: she was the love I have hoped but never had. I...

Reasons why you fail in your weight loss efforts...

  Why am I not losing weight? Such lines are the common enigma among those who try to shed their excess body weight. Amidst their efforts of daily exercise and dieting, things seem not to be working out. Is there something wrong with their methods?  Are they missing out something? If you’re one of them, then you should take heed of these following factors affecting your weight loss efforts.   You eat more than your...

3 insidious attitudes that’s causing you misery...

Believe it or not, most of our miseries are caused by us; no matter how much we try to point it to something, we are actually the ones making it. Our sources of problems are not really found on the things we think have caused it; rather, the insidious attitudes that we allow to manifest are the true culprits that agitates our sense of complacency. And unless we can identify, acknowledge and resist these certain...

Not measuring up? Don’t let them manipulate you!...

All of us have abilities to make the best out of the things we do in life; but oftentimes, we hinder ourselves of such because we tend to focus on the expectations others claim upon us: this propensity I call measuring up. Instead of putting our minds on our unique gift in handling things, events and situation, we allow ourselves to be manipulated by the measures setup by people around us. As a consequence, we have...

The only thing that can conquer FEAR...

Fear has always been a powerful force that dominates our being whenever our sense of complacency is compromised. Overcoming fear is difficult since it is hardwired within our system, but this does not mean we should surrender and allow it dominate our mind—we must learn how to deal with it. But how to conquer fear remains a great question. Once we feel fear, our problem solving mechanism is put to halt; anxiety and false...

Warning: These habits will kill you...

We have heard of it many times and have witnessed some of its casualties, yet it never sink on our consciousness until it’s too late—the bad habit that we unknowingly incorporate in our lifestyle that greatly compromises our health and well-being. Although we may find such precarious habits very satisfying, we have overlooked at the irreversible consequences it may have on our mind and bodies. Let us look at...

The things that matters in life...

Oftentimes, we have been foolish enough to take for granted the things that really matters in life. Instead, we go for the shiny, fleeting and deceiving objects (and aspirations) that our society, culture, belief and early programming have inculcated upon us. Its no wonder we have never been satisfied no matter how much we acquire: we aspire wrong things!   We want fame and fortune; we want beauty and grace; we...