Life is all lessons…ignorance is not a destiny…
A close friend of mine has once again consulted me about a dream he had recently. Again, it was about the person he loves and how she had changed along with the passing of their relationship.
He narrates…
I find myself in a fight with her. No matter how much I try to give light, she would go deaf; instead she would snag me with her ballistic rhetoric of all my errors. Being mild as I know myself in such a defeating situation I was surprised to found my heavy palm speeding in her cheeks. I did not know what came over me but I was full of regret for what I did. But remorse seemed defeated by the anger that has brewed in me.
Knowing her to be unforgiving in matters that trample her feeling she lashes back like a thunder. I knew then that it was over for us and am ready to suffer such fact.
As I watch her leave I can’t forget the picture of anger in her face, it was as if it was carved in stone and shall remain with her. I stand bewildered as the feeling of love and hate battles within me. My reason prods my feet to run after her but my feelings was so beaten that all my energies were drained.
Was I wrong to hurt her?
Yes I was.
Do I still love her?
Yes I do.
The why I have let her go?
Such question I find hard to answer. How can loving someone bring much pain? How can the person you love expect the things you cannot give? Why do they see the bad instead of the good?
At such moment, my friend stood silent. After a brief reckoning I tell him:
Pain is of our own making. How we see and perceived things are what makes our reality. All things have their nature and if we resist such nature, imbalance arises within us. Let us not try to see things according to what we want to see; it’s far better to see everything in a bigger picture. Feelings are nothing more than the manipulations of our ego and should therefore be ignored; feel it yet not act under its influence. Whence hate is strong, forgiveness is the only thing that can conquer it.
Learn to forgive and you’ll see love.
Remain with your feelings and you shall rot with it.
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It is normal in a relationship to have fight, verbally. But once you had used your hands to a girl, that’s a different story. Love can fade away when anger is over flowing. But I suggest, your friend must take a little time until the anger subside, and try to talk or communicate again with her girlfriend. In such time, both of them have finally cooled down.
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