Comments on: Parenting: What have I been to my children

By: Anna

Anna — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 15:55:59 +0000

Not a day goes by where I don’t often wonder to myself if I have portrayed the right life message to my children… am I spoiling them..? am I too restrictive..? It’s nice to see those feelings expressed by someone else in such a well-written and thoughtful blog post… a very nice post indeed

By: Adam Tyler

Adam Tyler — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 22:44:18 +0000

Kids often know very well that they should not get everything. But they are going to push it every time – they are experimentally testing how far they can go (little scientists they are, aren’t they?).

They key is to explain them that needs and desires are two different things and you _not them_ understand the difference.

By: Grady Pruitt

Grady Pruitt — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 20:36:03 +0000

I know that I have not been perfect as a parent, but I agree. I have learned that you have to set limits with your children, and I have found that with many of these kinds of “battle”, it’s best to start earlier. When you start early, you can usually avoid some of the resistance problems later on when they get used to doing their own thing.

It’s tough to set limits as a parent. You want them to like you and think well of you. But sometimes, the best way to do that is to not let them do everything that they want.

Great post!

By: Ken Wert

Ken Wert — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 16:57:58 +0000

Hi Walter!

The most important principle I have come across in disciplining my children while keeping their love is to shower an increased amount of love on them after having to scold or otherwise discipline them. After they’ve been corrected, I make sure they don’t perceive me to be an enemy by hugging them and telling how much I love them. I don;t in any way discount the correction. If they needed it, they needed it. I don;t apologize for a correct response to their behavior. But I make sure they don’t misinterpret the discipline as an act of rejection or alienation or the removal of love. That’s best done, I’ve found, by an increase in affection after the deed.

They do grow so fast (I have a 5 year-old and a married daughter!). It is so important to keep their hearts even when helping to shape and form their characters.

Thanks for the thoughtful post. I’m glad I found your blog here!

By: Justin | Personal Growth

Justin | Personal Growth — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 18:15:52 +0000

Hi Walter,
We do our best as parents to help our children become independent beings. I know that by giving our kids whatever they want when they want it will not help them to grow.

I believe as children become older we should instill in them more life lessons.