Life is all lessons…ignorance is not a destiny…
A close friend of mine came to me with a question on his mind. It’s about a dream he had about a girl he once loved. He came to me with the following story.
Last night I had a very vivid dream; it was a dream about a lady whom I was once in love. Upon seeing her beautiful face for the first time after an apparent long absence, I was captivated by her enchanting smile: she was the love I have hoped but never had. I felt a deep feeling of longing and I want us to get back together.
I asked her how she had been and she responded with the countenance that speaks of the same longing I have for her. My heart shouts with joy for I have missed her a lot. As we amble on the familiar road, our shoulders touching each other, I can’t resist the urge to hug her. With no foul intent whatsoever, I wrap my shoulder on her and she reciprocated in such a sweet and similar manner. At that moment nothing maters; the only thing I’m aware of is the heavenly feeling of being with her. Though I know in my dream that ours could never be anymore, I would give up anything just to be forever in her arms.
It was all surreal until I woke up with the realization that it was just a dream. No, I said, I want to go back, I don’t want to lose her again. But such sweet moment has been trampled by reality. I was bedazzled by the manifestation that the beloved in my dream and the lady who is my wife was one and the same person. I got confused because I had a totally different feeling for her in my dream; the reality however of my being awake had made her a total stranger. What happened? Why did I have different feeling for one person? Was it the setting? Was it the time and place? I am confused.
Watching her deep asleep I have tried to consolidate her with her persona in my dream. Why have I love her so in such an illusory world?? Why do I have a strong feeling for her in that temporal dimension? Did that dream signify that I love her more during those times when I barely know her?
Those questions has ended my friend narration, and looked upon me searching for answers. With my limited wisdom I have tried to give him something to ponder upon. I told him that the beloved in his dream was just a manifestation of what was once his feeling for his wife; that he longs to go back to such a state of love over which everything about her was nothing but delight. Such I said was just a romantic love—and not love in its very essence.
Further I have stated: perhaps you may have lost those same feelings with your wife but that does not mean you don’t love her anymore. The true nature of love does not rely on feelings—for feelings alone constitutes deceit; acceptance, understanding and the willingness to make sacrifice is the mark of its true essence. Yes you may not have that romantic feeling of love with your wife, but deep in your heart you will realize that you do love her more, and one of its manifestations may befall in her absence. The very fact that you have dreamed about her proves your love for her, and though you may not have the same feeling for her as you had in your dream, she’s still the same person over which the object of your love.
Romance will always be a passing fancy and can never thrive for long in the reality of our existence. True love may start with a romance but will always culminate in the capacity of each to embrace growth and maturity; without such willingness, love will simply not bloom.
My friend departs still confused, but I know that one day he will find a crack in that enigmatic and the most misunderstood concept that is LOVE.
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