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Not measuring up? Don’t let them manipulate you!


All of us have abilities to make the best out of the things we do in life; but oftentimes, we hinder ourselves of such because we tend to focus on the expectations others claim upon us: this propensity I call measuring up. Instead of putting our minds on our unique gift in handling things, events and situation, we allow ourselves to be manipulated by the measures setup by people around us. As a consequence, we have deprived ourselves of realizing what we are truly capable of; instead, we put much premium on the question: how do I measure up with these people?

Because we let ourselves be affected by the judgment of others we tend to fall short of doing our best. While others selfishly beat us up by proving we don’t measure up, we foolishly entertain such as fact—and then we live our life accordingly. We have become a loser because we have chosen to let the judgment of others define us.

Is this the kind of existence we want?

Do we truly believe that we are what they say we are?

There are people in my life that have let me down, and though they may have done so inadvertently, it has affected me in ways that crumble my self worth. Many times I have been measured by my “lack” or “shortcomings.” These people judge me according to their expectations of what they think is appropriate or acceptable—not on the good things that I do. They tell me I’m not good enough because I lack this and I lack that, and unless I take heed of their observation, I will fare no better in their eyes.

Such a scenario some of us have experienced many times in our lives. But will we really earn something if we allow ourselves to be enslaved by such measurement/judgment/expectation thrown to us by others? Perhaps there may be good intentions, the problem however is that we tend to live within the limiting cells of their criticisms. Our faith in ourselves starts to get compromised and slowly, our sense of self worth begins to corrode. We begin to focus on the picture they have painted us—not on discovering who we truly are.

Now I tell you: Don’t get mired on what they say about you so long as you don’t hurt anybody intentionally. Nobody’s perfect, and their measuring up only proves their inability to address their own lack. Do what you have to do to improve yourself. Know your mistakes and learn from it. Know your weakness and work on it. Perfection is not a reality of this life because everything is in constant change, and with such change that makes possible the balance in everything.

What you do at each moment of your life has its corresponding consequences. Brooding on the judgment of others is a terrible waste of time. We’ve only got one moment of life; be wise enough to use it to bring out the best in you. If you give your best, you’ll be an instrument of inspiration to others.

Have faith in yourself.

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