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How to deal with stress: right to the core


Stress is a fact of life and whatever we do it will always nudge us from our precious serenity. Be mindful however of how you handle it, you might not be aware that stress effects could be slowly draining the life out of you. There are many stress health risks you may inherit if you let it control you, and one of its scary effects is unwanted suffering or even untimely death.

But what causes stress?

Believe it or not, the number one cause of stress is our very own mind. Ok, your eyes may roll and think I’m being philosophical, but deeper analysis dictates that it is indeed our minds—its resistance to accept what is—that causes our stress.

“Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

If we keep on conceiving the negative things around us, if we keep on resisting what has been, stress will always dominate our whole being. Its venom will make its way thru physical malfunctions such as:

  • depression
  • diabetes
  • hair loss
  • heart disease
  • obesity
  • sexual dysfunction
  • ulcers
  • hypertension

Though I’m aware that we cannot always keep our stresses at bay, we must at least learn to weigh in the consequences if we continue to burrow in it. There are many triggers that inevitably put us on stress, and no matter what we do, we find it very difficult to restore complacency. Some of the powerful triggers are:

  • Divorce
  • Jail term
  • Death of a loved one
  • Major illness
  • Marriage
  • Being fired from job

Now you will ask: How can I not stress myself with such depressing scenarios?

The answer is simple (and complicated at the same time): Let it flow, feel the pain, allow the emptiness, embrace the despair—in short, stop your self from resisting. Stress is the result of our minds resistance to the unpredictability of life—its denial to accept the truth! If left to dominate, it may greatly jeopardize our sanity. The only liberation is to have the courage to accept the fact of what fate had lain before us—to see the bigger picture rather than the specific event at hand.

“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”

                                                                                                                                                                                                     — Marcus Aurelius

When stress is eating you up, maybe these would help:

  • look at the people you love dearly, think of what will happen to them if your stress has culminated to your being physically and mentally unstable
  • ask this question: Is your life worth the things you stress about?
  • go to a hospital’s emergency unit and see how precious life is
  • extend yourself to those who are in need of help: believe me this will make you feel good
  • seek the company of a good friend
  • and the most important and effective: PRAY, PRAY and PRAY.

Our quality of life is dependent on how we handle and interpret the things and events that affect us. If it does not go with our expectation, we experience stress. Are you not tired of responding this way? Did you not realize that you have the choice to dwell on the beautiful side of life? Remember, reality will always be how we perceive it.

Ruminate on this question: How would you want to see life?

There was a time in my life when I’ve experienced a terrible pain in my stomach. During those torturous moments nothing matters anymore. I was awakened to the reality of the moment—the previous agitations of my mind were replaced by the reality of the moment. After such brief experience of pain I realized that what I stress about life is all nonsense. What counts the most is where I am at the present moment—the only dimension in time where I can really make an impact.  Think about it.


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5 Responses to “How to deal with stress: right to the core”

  1. farouk says:

    that was such an informative post
    thank you walter :)

  2. bili osi says:

    That’s right, be in stress, is to punish yourself twice. Once at what that has happened, and the second time in a feeling of stress in the continuation.

    In picture it looks like he’s going to explode from most press …..
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  3. Anna says:

    very useful advice! thank you Walter I will send it to my mom, she can use it :D Anna recently posted..How to improve your relationshipMy Profile

  4. Hi Walter!

    Great reminders here that one of the best ways to overcome stress is to put our focus on the present moment – which is really all we have control over anyway. Worrying over what was or what might be is really a useless endeavor and life is too short indeed to waste time or possibly good health dwelling on such matters.
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  5. Buck Inspire says:

    Inspiring post! I often found myself in a spiral. Stressful event happens. I stress. I beat myself up for getting myself into the situation. I stress more as I am letting the stress get to me. Finally the pain fades until the next episode.
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