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Since relationships are vital for our survival and well-being, it is important to learn how to nurture it. Very often we are faced with relationship problems that we either face or evade—and it is unfortunate that evasion has been the preference of many.
While most relationships are shallow and can be easily terminated at will, intimate relationships are much more complicated to deal with. Couples relationship for example cannot be without conflicts, and it is important that we learn how to properly address each conflicting issues.
Commonly, our approaches to relationship conflicts are indifference and pride. We put much premium on our own feelings that we become numb to the others’ legitimate concern; hence, misunderstanding and emotional disturbance arise. Being in a relationship of marriage for years, I have learned things that play a big role in the harmony of any relationship. Though there are times that I want to give up in my relationship, I learned that I myself have made a contribution to its discordance. With this let me share you valuable wisdom I have learned about effective ways of saving a relationship.
Listening
The principle of listening is very simple, but somehow, it has been the most difficult virtue to practice in any relationship. Since we prefer not to hear anyone other than ourselves, conflicts becomes inevitable in our relationship with others. Remember that we all have our differences and we have to respect the differing prospects of others—AND this can be done thru listening.
Close your mouth more often and use your ears. You will be surprise at what you’ll learn.
Don’t allow your expectations to guide your judgment
Expectations have been a bad practice we have incorporated in most of our relationships, and because of this we have misconstrued the real picture that we see from others. Let us try to understand that relationship is NOT about US—it is about our harmonious partnership with others.
Drop any expectations and try to work with the other on how to have a common ground of understanding: I must admit that this is not easy, expectation in tandem with pride proves to be a powerful hindrance to this end.
Pride blights reason
There’s nothing more important than the satisfaction of our pride; irrespective of the damage it can cause, we prefer to treasure it more than reason. However, the more pride we bring into a relationship, the greater the misunderstanding that will ensue.
Pride may be good, but know when to let it down. Most relationships are destroyed because pride does not allow one or each to listen to the call of reason. Don’t fall for this trap.
Knowing the difference of the sexes
In relationships between opposite sexes it is imperative that each must understand the difference between the men and women. Knowing the psychological makeup of male and female will help prevent a clash of expectations. Perhaps these finding will give you some ideas:
As you can see, both sexes handle certain things differently, it’s important that we become aware of them.
Letting go of selfishness and making sacrifices
The more we are stubborn with our own ways, the less will our relationship with others lasts. In relationships, selfishness should have no space; each must make a reasonable sacrifice in order to relinquish any conflicts that may arise. In marriage for example, the husband should make the sacrifice of listening more to his wife rather than to stonewall, either way, the wife should give her husband some space when he needs to be alone.
Are you in a relationship that you treasure but is somehow unhappy with it? I guess you need to look inside and find what the real problem is. Solutions come when we seek for it, and by the methods I have shared here, you can find the answer.
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Listening is very important and positive listening is rather important too. Great ideas, thanks
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Was laughing at the difference between sexes area. How true. It’s just that I’ve never given it much thought; I’m always looking at people as they are, not as a man or a woman. But anyways, I had a blast reading this. Especially because it’s not just about couples; it’s also about saving important family ties, long-standing friendships and renewing ties with people from our past, even via Facebook!
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Great ideas.. I also agree that listening is very important but then the fact is still remain that the listening is the most difficult virtue to practice in any relationship…Thanks for sharing your valuable wisdom..
I am agree for what has been written in this article.. I get another pearl of wisdom from you 
.. Thanks for sharing.