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A healthy relationship commands respect. Unfortunately, most people do not understand this simple principle. Our tendency to disregard the feelings, concern and sense of importance of others tend to corrode our sound relationship with them.
But what is respect in a relationship?
Consider the following scenarios:
We’re in conversation with others but we keep on enforcing your opinion, giving others no chance to express their viewpoints;
We found ourselves in an argument with the other but we refuse to listen to his/her reason;
We are angry with our wife and you yell at her in front of her colleagues;
We are angry at our husband and we let it out on his possessions;
We’ve become irresponsible about the sensitive information others have entrust upon us;
As you can see from the examples above, we give no regards to the sense of well-being and importance of the other. We did not care whether our acts will embarrass, hurt or disappoint—what we only about is our own concern. The above-mentioned scenarios are just some of the things we do that shows our disrespect of others (be they our wife, friends, colleagues, or anyone whom we’ve established a relationship). While our actions may be inadvertent, it still poses an attack to the self-worth of the aggrieved person; and as a consequence, miscommunication, misunderstanding and unnecessary conflict ensues.
Many relationships have faltered because we do not acknowledge the need for respect of others. Quite often, we are quick with our false pride without realizing we have disrespected someone. In our effort to elevate ourselves, we have become numb to the feelings and legitimate concern of others. To be honest, I have found myself to be this insensitive in my relationship with my wife, relatives or friends. More often than not I tend to belittle someone just because I found him/her short of my standards or expectation. There are times that I wonder why someone will manifest unpleasantness before me, later will I realize that I’ve offended him by my previous disrespectful gestures.
Respect is an acknowledgement we extend to a person irrespective of his status, belief, origin and condition in life. We always have to take into account the feelings of others as we interact with them. A sound relationship will always require respect for each other— no matter how shallow the relationship is.
Give respect, and you will be respected in return. Deny respect and you’ll be despised.
In order to have a flourishing relationship with the people we care about, let me share the things I have learned about respect:
Accept someone as he is; don’t push him to be someone he’s not;
Listen to what the other is saying, no matter how insignificant you perceive his thoughts and opinions are;
Don’t judge a person by his outer form: this can give you a very wrong picture about such person;
Learn to be open-minded; a narrow mind harbors selfishness and insensitivity to the feelings of others;
If you’re angry with your wife, husband, friend, or relative, be civil and courteous enough so as not to embarrass him/her in the presence of other people;
Never involve a person in gossips, name calling, or negative labeling;
As a child, our parents taught us how to respect. It’s ironic though that as we grow up we have forgotten this simple principle of civility. Everyone needs to be respected, and if we understand this truth we won’t have much trouble with our relationship with others.
Now I will ask you. Do you practice respect in any of your relationships?
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I think respect is definitely one of the most important things to have in a relationship, and it’s even more important than love itself. Love can come and go, but you always have to respect your partner
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I read a post recently, Walter, that included respect very highly on a list of things for a great relationship. One other thing it said, that really struck a chord with me, is ‘do everything with love’. Great post, thanks.
Enjoy the journey.
Mandy
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Respect is the main recipe of love, without respect your relationship is nothing.
Respect is so important in all relationships, whether it’s family, friends, or business. Without respect, the relationship can never be elevated to anything beyond 2 people bwho happen to be in the same room at the same time. Respect allows it to go to new heights.