Comments on: Criticism: the unwanted mentor http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=criticism-the-unwanted-mentor Life is all lessons...ignorance is not a destiny... Wed, 28 Jul 2010 07:33:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1096 hourly 1 By: Walter http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-2478 Walter Mon, 31 May 2010 06:01:36 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-2478 You're welcome to share this. Thanks a lot. :-) You’re welcome to share this. Thanks a lot. :-)

]]> By: Marin Riden http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-2472 Marin Riden Mon, 31 May 2010 01:35:04 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-2472 Howdy there,this is Marin Riden,just observed your Post on google and i must say this blog is great.may I share some of the information found in the blog to my local buddies?i am not sure and what you think?in any case,Thanks! Howdy there,this is Marin Riden,just observed your Post on google and i must say this blog is great.may I share some of the information found in the blog to my local buddies?i am not sure and what you think?in any case,Thanks!

]]> By: Walter http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-2209 Walter Sun, 02 May 2010 23:44:46 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-2209 Thanks Anthony, you've been very kind. I do believe that criticisms should be seen in a positive way, be it in pure form or not. However, it is much better to perceive it in pure form rather than to cloud it with suspicion. After all, growth comes with uncomfortable experiences like criticism. :-) Thanks Anthony, you’ve been very kind. I do believe that criticisms should be seen in a positive way, be it in pure form or not. However, it is much better to perceive it in pure form rather than to cloud it with suspicion. After all, growth comes with uncomfortable experiences like criticism. :-)

]]> By: Anthony Smits http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-2206 Anthony Smits Sun, 02 May 2010 15:52:33 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-2206 Thanks Walter Your articles are well written and insightful.. and I haven't seen them all yet! I'm with Barbara, above, on this. I don't like criticism, and so tend not to dish it out. However, I also think that the process of human growth includes an increasing ability to both give and receive help - which is what criticism in a pure form really is. I look forward to helping more as I grow more. Kind regards Anthony Thanks Walter
Your articles are well written and insightful.. and I haven’t seen them all yet!
I’m with Barbara, above, on this. I don’t like criticism, and so tend not to dish it out.
However, I also think that the process of human growth includes an increasing ability to both give and receive help – which is what criticism in a pure form really is.
I look forward to helping more as I grow more.

Kind regards
Anthony

]]> By: Walter http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-1737 Walter Wed, 10 Mar 2010 07:02:13 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-1737 Criticisms do affect us, but if we see it objectively then we are able to learn from it. After all, the more we learn about ourselves the better we become. :-) Criticisms do affect us, but if we see it objectively then we are able to learn from it. After all, the more we learn about ourselves the better we become. :-)

]]> By: Jen http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-1726 Jen Tue, 09 Mar 2010 16:57:02 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-1726 Hi Walter Great post. I find accepting criticism hard. I think on some level when we find criticism hard it is because we think the other person(s) is saying there is something wrong with us. If we can separate our reactions from what's being said, there is a huge growth opportunity. Jen Hi Walter
Great post. I find accepting criticism hard. I think on some level when we find criticism hard it is because we think the other person(s) is saying there is something wrong with us. If we can separate our reactions from what’s being said, there is a huge growth opportunity.
Jen

]]> By: Walter http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-1483 Walter Mon, 15 Feb 2010 08:00:51 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-1483 I understand your predicament here and I have also experienced this kind of criticisms many times in my life. One thing I've learned in dealing with it is to see criticisms objectively, and not allow my emotions to mingle with it. Let us accept the fact that there are disturbed people who wants to express their discontent of themselves through harshly criticizing others. Here's the thing, if they see you affected, they have won in their attempt to share their misery unto you; but if you ignore their criticisms and stick to the truth they they are the one's who needs to be criticized, then you have defeated them in their own game. Learn to ignore and have faith in yourself. Don't let them win by being emotionally disturbed. :-) I understand your predicament here and I have also experienced this kind of criticisms many times in my life. One thing I’ve learned in dealing with it is to see criticisms objectively, and not allow my emotions to mingle with it.

Let us accept the fact that there are disturbed people who wants to express their discontent of themselves through harshly criticizing others. Here’s the thing, if they see you affected, they have won in their attempt to share their misery unto you; but if you ignore their criticisms and stick to the truth they they are the one’s who needs to be criticized, then you have defeated them in their own game.

Learn to ignore and have faith in yourself. Don’t let them win by being emotionally disturbed. :-)

]]> By: Lindsay http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-1482 Lindsay Mon, 15 Feb 2010 06:22:06 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-1482 Walter, This is post has such perfect timing in my life right now. I recently had been attacked by someone who felt that they were "just trying to help by pointing out my flaws" Now, I am an artist and regularly open myself up for criticism and I am a strong person and really have never had a problem with people telling me, in a constructive way, how to better my self, designs, and bussines HOWEVER recently was confronted with an individual who had one or two good points but they were mottled inside of person attacks and just mean spirited-ness (not i word i know). I have never felt so offended and attacked and the person felt the need to say over and over again "This is for your own good.. I'm only saying this to help you better yourself" How in the world do you deal with someone who really just loves to put people down in the name of criticism. I seriously can't, these are the people who don't make me want to question my own value and self worth but more just make me sad for humanity that there are people out there that get off on trying to make people feel this way. It really just pisses me off and I would love to just question them as to why they do this. I have pointed out that their "method" of giving this so-called advice is more useless than it is useful, but that never seems to work. So what in the world do you do with a person like that? .-= Lindsay´s last blog ..<a href="http://design.bscphoto.com/designblog/2010/02/12/mix-tape-no-3/">Mix Tape No. 3</a> =-. Walter,
This is post has such perfect timing in my life right now. I recently had been attacked by someone who felt that they were “just trying to help by pointing out my flaws” Now, I am an artist and regularly open myself up for criticism and I am a strong person and really have never had a problem with people telling me, in a constructive way, how to better my self, designs, and bussines

HOWEVER recently was confronted with an individual who had one or two good points but they were mottled inside of person attacks and just mean spirited-ness (not i word i know). I have never felt so offended and attacked and the person felt the need to say over and over again “This is for your own good.. I’m only saying this to help you better yourself”

How in the world do you deal with someone who really just loves to put people down in the name of criticism. I seriously can’t, these are the people who don’t make me want to question my own value and self worth but more just make me sad for humanity that there are people out there that get off on trying to make people feel this way. It really just pisses me off and I would love to just question them as to why they do this.

I have pointed out that their “method” of giving this so-called advice is more useless than it is useful, but that never seems to work. So what in the world do you do with a person like that?
Lindsay´s last blog ..Mix Tape No. 3 My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: Walter http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-1439 Walter Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:18:52 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-1439 I understand your point. But, as I have always pointed out, criticisms should be handled objectively rather than emotionally. :-) I understand your point. But, as I have always pointed out, criticisms should be handled objectively rather than emotionally. :-)

]]> By: Walter http://www.lionslinger.com/2010/01/15/criticism-the-unwanted-mentor/comment-page-1/#comment-1438 Walter Wed, 10 Feb 2010 12:16:54 +0000 http://www.lionslinger.com/?p=694#comment-1438 Criticism takes time to be acknowledged. But it is wise to approach it objectively. :-) Criticism takes time to be acknowledged. But it is wise to approach it objectively. :-)

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