I reckon that we are all familiar with the concept of criticism. Most of the time, in our everyday encounter with life we unconsciously execute this prejudicial attitude in our civilities with people as well as interpreting events. Ironically, it’s easy for us to throw criticisms on others but hate it when we are subjected to the experience; we find it hard to entertain any challenges to our principles upon which we pattern our approach in life—some of us are even obstinate and arrogant in furthering this attitude. There are many contributory factors that lead us to respond this way, for sure one of them is our ever influential ego.
Nobody wants to be criticized and many will go into great lengths to counter its self-depreciating sting. As much as possible we want everything to be in accordance with our plane of understanding, any threat on this account prompts us to retaliate by insisting on the plausibility of our introspection.
What if we take criticism in a different perspective? Instead of looking at it as an attack on our pride, why not perceive it in a positive or contributory way? Criticism has hidden benefits if we allow ourselves brief consideration; despite our tendency to be annoyed or to be defensive, we should allow ourselves to see its beneficial aspect. Instead of expunging, it would be better to take it as some form of learning or opportunity for improvement. But this doesn’t mean that we should consider every criticism that comes our way, we should of course separate the substantive from the nonsense.
In every process of learning, we should let go of our bigotry. The more arrogant we are in our obstinacy, the more we are furthered from the opportunity of understanding. Irrespective of the unfriendly gestures we see in criticism, we must shun the suggestion of invalidation in order to explore the benefits we may earn from taking criticisms into consideration. Though it’s difficult to swallow our pride, it is for our own gain if we take into account the fact that we may have erred in some aspects of our beliefs which we hold true. After all, being human is never without a flaw.
Whatever station we are in life, it is imperative that we learn to accept the wisdom behind any criticisms that are thrown upon us. It is easy to adopt a belligerent response against criticisms. Instead of adopting the wise approach of inner query, we chose to be stubborn. As a consequence, we’ve become adamant in our foolish ways. Since our mind refuses to accept any derogatory attempts on our venerated principles, we become stunted, the opportunity for expanding our horizons has vanquished. We kept on doing our old false ways and committing the same mistakes without any chance for improvement.
There’s no harm in accepting our flaws, especially if it is for our own good. Part of any process of growth is the experience of discomfort and resistance, but we must learn to make a struggle in confronting the belief systems that stifles our growth. This belief system that we had on our mind is one of the biggest hindrance in our effort to instill new ways of seeing things. During the time of the famous astronomer Nicolas Copernicus, everybody believed that our world is the center of the universe, except for the astronomer himself. Despite the fact that he has evidence to support his claim, many were stubborn to consider his findings. Throughout history, nothing has changed when it comes to this human stigma. The same gravity of unyielding is ever present when our beliefs and principle are put into question.
I have encountered many criticisms in my life, but despite the subtle beckoning of perusal at the back of my mind I have chosen to be stubborn in sticking with my old ways. A time has come though when I’m forced to look upon myself and test the applicability of some of the criticisms thrown unto me. At first I find it hard to accept my errors; I don’t want to believe I have made wrong interpretations about certain principle and beliefs. This experience has made caught the unsolicited and invisible force that’s overriding my judgment in accepting the unfamiliar. It is then that I understand the truth that we are creatures of habit. Our habits hamper our ability to accept the foreign. Never would I have realized this fact had I not see the mentor behind each criticism.
Maybe some of us will never want to embrace criticism; perhaps we will never see the good in it. But what if we are experiencing discordance in our life? Whatever we do or whatever aspirations we set upon ourselves seems to end up in vain; we are unhappy, we are unsatisfied and complacency managed to elude us every time we seek it. Would you allow this kind of life to prosper? I’m sure you won’t. But are you doing something about it? Have you criticized yourself lately? If not then you’re a fool. Part of our growth is the constant reevaluation of our self. Let us now wait for others to make criticism; more than being a duty, we ought to ourselves our improvement. Living like a fool is something we should look into, lest we want to deteriorate into believing we are otherwise.
I pass the ball to you. What’s your say on this?
“Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things.”
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